Book Excerpts

Excerpt from:  30 Days to a Stronger, More Confident You

Day 1:  Introduction: Confront Your Insecurity

Quick Self-Assessment

Before you begin your quest for Supreme confidence, let’s take a quick assessment of your current level of insecurity. Please answer yes or no to the questions below. Be honest. Resist the urge to go into denial. Know that an acknowledged weakness can be your greatest strength and the quickest path to an emotionally balanced and fulfilling life.

Insecurity Quiz

  1.  Do you find yourself resenting or criticizing others who are assertive, confident, or capable in areas in which you feel inadequate?
  2.  Do you become anxious when it appears that someone may take your place of prominence in a certain environment or relationship?
  3.  Do you brag about your possessions, accomplishments, or well-known acquaintances in order to gain the admiration of others?
  4.  Do you become perturbed when someone disagrees with your opinion or rejects your advice?
  5.  Do you fail to pursue certain opportunities for fear of failure or inadequacy for the task?
  6.  When working with a team, do you prefer to “shine alone” rather than having the group share the credit for your ideas?
  7. Do you resist giving or receiving constructive criticism?
  8. Do you find it difficult to say “No” or to express your personal boundaries or preferences in relationships?
  1. Do you feel slighted when someone gives a friend, sibling, coworker, or another person a compliment or an accolade in your presence?
  2. 10. Do you feel inadequate or inferior due to certain unchangeable physical features such as your height, skin color, a physical deformity, a handicap, facial features, or your age?

If you answered “Yes” to any of the questions above, you are most likely battling insecurity at some level.  If you answered, “Yes” to five or more, insecurity has a major stronghold on your life.  Do not despair; conquering it is not impossible.  You can break its grip on your life and become an emotionally secure person.  Be patient and understand that this will be a process rather than an event.  There is a popular a riddle that asks, “How do you eat an elephant?”  The answer is, “One bite at a time!”  And so it is with insecurity.  How do you conquer it?  One fear at a time!  Let’s get started.